I wrote this article because nobody is perfect, and we shouldn’t expect it either.
Many in the personal growth field believe the goal is to be perfect.
The goal is to accept our human side while improving our game because we all make mistakes on our development journey.
Perfectionism is what we do to protect ourselves from being hurt and criticized.
When we worry over the question, ‘What will people think?’
We are not allowing ourselves to be seen, warts and all. To begin with, a good mantra is “I am enough.”
Because you are.
What is a mistake? An action or judgment that is misguided or wrong.
In religious terms, people sin.
What is a sin? An immoral act is considered to be a transgression against divine law.
It’s okay to do things without harmful intentions or just plain ignorance.
You can fix or alter yourself so you don’t do it anymore.
For example, if you were a child and lied to your parents, you can be taught that lying is wrong because knowingly giving false information to alter reality is a sin and not a mistake.
A person should be guided into learning the negative consequences of lying to get what you want.
No One Is Perfect
My goal was to be ‘cool’ like The Fonz. I imagined a version of myself who never gets triggered or never loses their cool, no matter what. Guess what? I still lose my cool sometimes, but nowhere near as much as I once did. So what’s my point?
Nobody is perfect all the time. I strive to be as balanced as possible when dealing with life, but I also realize there will be moments when I perform less than perfectly.
For me, practicing compassion towards ourselves and others is essential when being less than our best.
I’ve noticed two kinds of people on Earth: those who realize their shortcomings can admit it and actively take steps to improve themselves.
The second kind completely denies themselves and will flat-out refuse that they have any improvement areas because it’s everyone else’s fault.
So basically, we have two types of people:
- Self-Responsible
- Self-Denial
Why Is No One Perfect? The Human Factor
No one is perfect, and this is because of something known as the human being factor.
The human being factor states that we are human, flawed in some way, shape, or form. Whether we are sleep-deprived, intoxicated, or otherwise under duress, anyone can be expected to make errors in judgment that we later regret.
Humans are addicted to calamity, confusion, chaos, drama, and tragedy. We live in a society where lying is accepted and considered the norm. We tend to forget what we’ve learned, repeat mistakes repeatedly, and undermine our spiritual liberation attempts.
The definition of the human factor has a vast spectrum. It means we have a hard time staying conscious for long enough to make meaningful, positive changes within ourselves or society. This unconscious part of ourselves is known as the ‘Shadow Self.’
Many of our renowned leaders and heroes, both past and present, are imperfect and have a shadow side like everyone else. In Jungian psychology, the shadow or “shadow aspect” may refer to an unconscious aspect of the personality that the conscious ego does not identify.
Because one tends to reject or remain ignorant of the least desirable aspects of one’s character, the shadow is primarily negative or the entirety of the unconscious, i.e., everything a person is not fully conscious of.
The Shadow is all that we dislike about ourselves and wish others not to see – It is our inherent dark nature asleep to itself. When we are in a negative state of mind created by the shadow self, we tend to project this shadow aspect of ourselves onto others in the form of negativity.
Please remember, there is not one Saint or perfect, balanced person walking on this Earth at this time, except maybe Eckhart Tolle.
Human beings are not perfect, and we have come a long way, yet we still have a long way to go regarding spiritual, intellectual, and emotional development. That is why personal and spiritual growth needs to be a life-long practice.
Ideally, we would equally use these elements to help us navigate our human, earthly experience. Growing up, I saw the dysfunction in adults and peers around me. I always wondered what was wrong with us. I asked why we couldn’t get along.
Later in life, after reading hundreds of personal growth and psychology books, I finally began to connect the dots to our irrational nature.
I understood that man is a fractured being in his present state. Our mind has become fragmented and is no longer whole. We have denied parts of ourselves that the general collective consciousness might see as unfit, not good, and bad for business.
Humanity is Fractured: This Is Why We Are Not Perfect
Nobody is perfect because humanity is fractured. Could this denial of certain aspects of the self be the cause of much of humanity’s suffering? Can this be fixed; can we piece (peace) ourselves together? Yes, we can.
Yes, but it will take a group of individuals acting as a whole to heal the inner wounds that 99% of humans carry with them daily. We must resolve our internal issues and get to the root of our suffering to bring ourselves wholeness and peace of mind.
Raising our awareness helps us understand why we are all wounded and stuck in life. This is our real purpose in this lifetime.
We do this by acting as well-adjusted human beings interested in the greater good of ourselves as their real purpose and desires. We do this by taking full responsibility for our lives. We accept that not everyone is the same and not everyone has the same passions, interests, and points of view.
We do this by living the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you!
This is an excellent way to test a relationship with others by pulling’ a them’ on them. Pulling’ a them’ on them means doing the behavior you don’t like that they do to you. If they are always late and show no remorse, do it to them. If they are always pushy and demanding of you, do it to them.
If they respond negatively and react when you pull ‘a them’ on them, they are not harmonious beings and probably would not be a relationship that will benefit you in the long run.
If they show no signs of resistance or complaint when you pull ‘a them’ on them, at least the person is congruent.
Doing this takes much work, and we need to be aware of ourselves, our prejudices, our limiting beliefs and attitudes, and our fears about different people. We heal ourselves by first healing our bodies.
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Eat Better for Perfection
Eat whole, natural foods, drink lots of clean water, and ensure you get your daily dose of essential vitamins, minerals, amino acids, and electrolytes.
We do this by balancing out the hormones in the body. We do this by getting consistent quality sleep every night. We make our fellow humans an ally and honored friends instead of enemies.
We do this by healing our minds. We learn to become more present in the moment, have faith in a higher power, and realize that everything always works out for the better.
We learn to communicate to others about our needs without fear or guilt.
We learn to let go of petty grudges, love and respect the Earth, love and respect ourselves, and realize we are good enough and worthy of love and respect.
We do this by removing toxic habits – utilizing self-discovery by discovering more about ourselves and observing other individuals outside us.
We determine our emotional and physical needs and prioritize meeting them. We are advanced hunter-gatherers, and survival is our core concern.
As we advance, we can transcend this limiting behavior and progress towards becoming a whole, advanced being as we are destined to be.
Life is a playground for consciousness, but we can only enjoy our experience as much as we allow ourselves to go beyond self-imposed limitations. We have many individual accomplishments that we can all be proud of.
We need our collective consciousness to advance into a new world where everyone contributes, everyone’s needs are easily met, and sickness, disease, and emotional wounds are eradicated.
How can this be accomplished?
Your Imperfect Parts
Since nobody is perfect, we must work on the shadow aspects of our being. The shadow is parts of us that we repress yet to become uncovered when under duress.
First, let me remind you why so few people are willing to do the initial hard work of personal and spiritual growth. Read the words below and find out why.
The degree to which you can grow will be directly proportional to the amount of truth you can accept about yourself.
- Can you be objective about yourself, or are you an “unreliable witness” to your irrational, illogical, emotional behavior? Are you deluding yourself about who you are?
- Can you think for yourself, or do you copy what everyone else is doing? Are you an unconscious crowd follower? Do you have the “herd mentality?”
- Are you offended by everything and ashamed of nothing about yourself? Do you understand that people are not what they say but what they do? Are you capable of honest, even critical self-reflection?
- Are you selective with the people you spend time with? Do you realize you become like the people you surround yourself with?
- Do you understand personal boundaries? Do you know that people can say “No” to you? Do you get the saying, “Your rights end where my nose begins? Have you studied psychology? Can you name and identify personality disorders? Do you genuinely understand human nature, or are you deluding yourself?
- Do you understand the value of personal growth? Do you realize you should be a better, improved version of yourself every year? Are you still doing the same things year after year? Are you stuck in the past, creating a perpetual reality time loop? Can you open up to trying new things and experiences instead of repeating the past?
- Do you take full responsibility for your life or remain in perpetual victim status? Do you understand the importance of reason, logic, and doing your research in life? Have you learned to be accountable for yourself, including your behavior and choices = Personal Accountability?
- Do you understand your feelings are legitimate but not consistently accurate about someone or a situation because you may not completely understand the person or the situation? This is a big one for all of us to learn and remember.
Be sure to think about the questions above and be honest. Without honest self-evaluation, we cannot grow toward our full potential.
When you become responsible for yourself and your life, you will move into a place of pure power, which has scared many of you for too long.
You fear your power and instead remain a victim of outside forces.
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Individual Life Bubbles
We are individuals, first and foremost.
In this world, we live separately (space between us) while simultaneously being connected (Quantum Field). I can’t take credit for Nikola Tesla’s accomplishments or Dr. Ben Carson’s fantastic ability to perform neurosurgery just because we are humans.
Humanity is similar to witnessing a mass of soap bubbles. Every bubble is separate, yet they touch one another, and a unified field encompasses them.
That, in a nutshell, is what humanity is. We have physical bodies, yet we also have an etheric bubble around us called an aura. The aura can expand and contract at will and affect other living things – including electronic devices.
We must be more aware of our emotional states and increase our energetic frequencies.
Wherever we go, our thoughts, behaviors, attitudes, and beliefs follow us, affecting everyone and every place we encounter for the better and sometimes for the worse.
Are You Stuck In Your Head?
Perfection cannot be found in your thinking; perfection can only be found when we are fully present in the moment without identifying with our thinking.
Do you know how to have a proper conversation with another person? It goes like this:
Someone makes a statement or asks a question and then pauses; the other responds. It’s that simple. However, it can be challenging to have a conversation because everyone wants to data dump, be heard, and move on to the next task or destination, yet few know how to listen.
Listening is an art; however, we all want to be heard. Whenever I find myself conversing with someone and all they seem to do is wait for me to stop talking (if they even wait without interrupting) so they can, I usually end the conversation quickly by leaving, or I zone out and completely ignore what the person is saying.
During the Art of conversation, pausing between talking and contemplating your words before responding is okay.
Most people are talking and walking heads. Most of their lives live in their head, and they seldom experience the whole body unless they get triggered and release an adrenaline response.
Most people I see have a heightened response in their amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for emotions, among other things.
Where you want to be is in a state of aware presence – consciousness. Consciousness is not the same as thinking; consciousness is a state where you sense and perceive your reality.
It’s an awareness of your environment and yourself and the desire to interact with the environment to create fulfillment. This is our nature.
Yes, you will have to think from time to time; however, learn to create a state of consciousness,
Whenever you notice you are stuck in your head, try these:
- Say your full name out loud.
- Place your awareness in your small toe.
- Go for a walk, a bike ride, or a run.
- Burn some incense, sniff some fresh Rosemary
- Clean your house, wash your car, do the dishes
- Use the Wim Hoff breathing method -(YouTube)
- Do some weight lifting.
Thought
You have to have perfect thoughts to become an ideal person. Get rid of junk thoughts. Junk thoughts are things you say to yourself that are not what you want, such as “Life is a pain in the neck” or “Why is my life so difficult?”
Be conscious of what you’re thinking and saying so that what you express to yourself and others is what you want.
Catch yourself whenever you have a sloppy thought, like, “The way things are going, I will never get better.” When you catch yourself, delete the careless idea internally by thinking, “Delete that,” and then change the sloppy thinking to what you want.
We use the power of our thoughts to program our reality to our desired outcome. Wake up and say, “Today will be fun and joyful.” Say, “Life is always working out for me.” Say, Money flows to me effortlessly and quickly.”
Learn to use your thoughts to program your desired reality experience consciously.
Nobody is Perfect in Relationships
How many relationships have you come out of for the worse? I’m talking about family relationships, intimate relationships, work relationships, friendships, etc.
This happens because our beliefs about ourselves, thoughts about others, and how we thought life should be were shattered. It can leave us feeling very cynical and pessimistic about life in general.
One of the good things here is that you have some control. Notice what you are attracting in life, and if you don’t like what you are drawing, then “broadcast” something more you like.
For example, if you keep attracting “controlling” people into your life, change your frequency/vibes to what you prefer. When you change your frequency, you change your reality.
This happens like this: You are always telepathically broadcasting what you want and expect from other people to the world. You attract the people to yourself who respond to your expectations in a relationship.
More than likely, you picked up these relationship expectations from Mom and Dad; you also could have picked them up from relatives, peers, and TV.
Command out loud: “I am attracting loving, kind people who respect my boundaries into my life.” When you say this and, more importantly, feel it in your nervous system, you will notice that you repel the “controlling” types of people while the loving and kind types are drawn to you.
You are stating that you are not available to limit relationships any longer.
You are releasing old patterns. You can do this in any area of your life and with whatever negative relationship patterns you keep attracting, including relationships with food, money, and health.
Your soul yearns for positive relationships where you can quickly meet your needs while maintaining honest communication (without fear of loss), which is the main factor.
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No One Is Perfect: Everyone Makes Mistakes Conclusion
Nobody is perfect, yet we must move our coordinates to perfect conscious awareness. Yes, we humans have much personal work to do. Yes, it will be hard and challenge us, but in the end, humanity will significantly benefit from this.
As individuals, we need to go from confusion to sovereignty. We must clean our minds and perceptions and clearly define who we are and what we truly want.
We need to get ourselves balanced and healthy and clear ourselves of negativity because when we do this, our outer world will reflect the new and improved us.
It’s time we wake up and become better versions of ourselves through proper conflict resolution, meditation, relaxation, daily, low-impact exercise, and letting go of the things we cannot change.
You can’t change the world, but you can change yourself. The only way the human factor can improve is to replace your negative, self-defeating habit patterns with positive and constructive models if you take charge of your own life.
Give absolute priority to your needs first, and then take care of the rest. One last thing: humans are limited by our present level of awareness.
We are always doing our best, and we can never do any better than what we’re doing now because our present level of awareness limits us, even if our best is faulty.
Every decision and action you take is based on your present level of awareness – the values, concepts, beliefs, and aspirations you embrace right now. We can only do better and improve once our current consciousness level is accepted and expanded positively in loving ways.
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